A breakup exerts a huge emotional pressure and puts a person under deep stress because of losing the most special person in your life. The psychological and behavioral patterns of both genders vary following post-breakup stress.
If you want to know the psychology of a male suffering from the same suffocating and stressful phase of life, then you have landed on the right page.
Here we will provide some information about the psychology of a post-breakup guy based on personal experience.
Highlights:
In this article following main theme points will be discussed;
- The changes in social behavior because of stress and emotional trauma caused by breakup.
- The main habits he will adopt to get rid of the emotional damage of the breakup.
- The changes in his thinking pattern and thoughts because of breakup stress and anxiety.
- The behavior and care he expects from his surrounding people to help him recover from this stress.
Male’s behavior after the breakup
The male personalities are aggressive and emotionally strong but still breakup causes an emotional breakdown.
Here are some behavioral changes associated with the males following post-breakup;
1. He prefers more alone time
The person suffering the loss of his closest person prefers to spend alone time rather than gatherings. He already lost the person he spent his time with and shared things with. Hence distance from the gatherings was induced in his personality and the hesitation to share his things with others became dominant.
2. He stays aside from gatherings
Post-breakup guys possess a hatred for noise, people, and social gatherings. This is because of the loss of the special person with whom they shared their thoughts and expressed their emotions. Hence you will notice them avoiding gatherings and fun places.
3. He analyzes and talks about deep feelings
A breakup makes a guy indulge deep in feelings and asses things in a greater depth. The person with whom they were in a relationship was the sole sharer of his feelings and emotions with the essence of deep involvement. Hence loss of that person makes him sensitive and prone to understanding the depth of emotions.
4. He will show affection towards sad music
Music triggers deep feelings of romantic moments spent with your partner. All the moments of intimacy and closeness spent with her will be flashed back to mind upon the lyrics of sad music. This will make him feel like he’s spending that time with his ex-partner in mind and hence will be attracted to music.
5. He will try to get his ex back by repenting for mistakes
The moments of loneliness and lack of a person to share feelings with will move him into a depressed situation. Thus he will try to contact and patch up with her again irrespective of who decided to break up. His present behavior will indicate his repentance for the mistake of separation.
6. He will behave with his ex very nicely
His behavior towards his ex-partner will be drastically changed followed by the time spent alone and the emotional breakdown. He will think that only way to heal this damage is the patch up with his ex. Thus his behavior will become very sweet towards his ex-partner and the grief of the breakup will be visible in his behavior.
7. He will enter into sorrow seeing other people in a relationship
Having the sight of world after a breakup will hit his emotions differently. Seeing people happy and satisfied with their partners, will cause their depression to increase. The memory of satisfactory moments spent with their partner will revolve in their mind and disturb their present behavior.
8. He will act like his life is useless
His behavior will portray his meaningless attitude towards life. He will leave his aims and keep aside his goals. This will happen because of loss of a person who became the motivation behind these aims and goals and gave the spirit to life.
9. He would prefer more meetups with his close friends
Friends are the entities that help an individual escape from moments of sorrow and disappointment. Especially for a guy who possesses a strong bond with his buddies, the entertaining and supportive company of his close friends can take him out of this stress.
Hence he will go for hangouts with them and prefer small but quality gatherings with his close buddies.
10. He will ignore his important tasks
For a guy after the breakup, the most important thing seems to become lost. This will affect their priorities towards their self and their family members. They will take no interest in tasks assigned to them and spend life in useless things just to pass the time.
10 Things males do to forget their breakup
Breakup is supposedly the most hurting thing that can happen in this world. This is because they make permanent and lasting connections with their partner. This is the reason they perform multiple things to divert their minds and get out of this trauma.
1. He will try to get into another relationship
The remedy in the mind of males for the emotional damage because of the breakup is to attach their feelings to another girl. This can also help to forget the trauma of the first breakup and start a new journey towards a peaceful and lasting emotional connection.
2. He will take drugs or drink
His mind will ask him to abuse drugs and drink alcohol when searching for methods to forget the thoughts and memories of his ex-partner.
Hence he will drink to the extreme and even abuse lethal drugs to stop the process of recurring thoughts of his previous relationship. This process will also make him step out of consciousness and distract his thoughts.
3. He will indulge in sexual abuse
The way he will mostly use to satisfy his sexual and relationship needs will be going towards sexual abuse. He will think that the only way to avenge the grief he suffered is to abuse other girls who show closeness to him.
4. He will not accept personal care
His personality will not be able to accept the care from others after the breakup. This is because that care will remind him of the care his ex-partner took of him. He will feel disgraced to accept care from someone other than his ex.
5. He will often cry at things reminding him of his ex
Those things that are associated with the moments he spent with his ex will trigger a flood of flashbacks in his mind. Hence tears will pop out of his eyes sooner or later remembering that thing. Crying out at that moment will let him feel at ease.
6. He will not focus on his aim of life
The aim that he thought of before getting into a relationship will be moved aside after the breakup. The association of every feeling and every struggle of life with his ex will break his heart when thinking of the aim of life. Hence he will move away from the main goal he carried all through his life.
7. He will keep a pet or something to express his love
His love and care will remain at their peak even after the breakup because of a daily routine of expressing them for his partner. Hence he will keep a pet to radiate out that care and love. He could even name his pet after his ex-partner.
8. He will keep himself in a miserable state
To forget the memories of her ex and avoid the attention of others, he will maintain himself in a miserable state. He will refrain from taking personal care and maintaining his native personality. This is because this will remind him of the care he took for his personality just to impress his ex-partner.
9. He will fight over small things
The aggression will become a habit and part of his nature. He will radiate out his emotions and fade the memories of his ex-partner by blowing the anger out. This will give him satisfaction and probably the revenge for breakup.
10. He will play with feelings of other girls
He will try to forget his ex-partner and the feelings associated with her by playing with the feelings of other girls. This will help him recover from the deficiency of his emotional breakdown and divert his mind from memories of his ex by making new memories with other girls.
10 Male’s thoughts after a breakup
The mind of a male following post-breakup stress and damage loses more than half of its working capacity. Here are some effects on the thoughts of a male after a breakup which are not observed in normal guys.
1. He will think of no purpose in life worth working for
During his relationship period, he had thought only of doing everything for his partner. He associated most of his life and aims in life with his partner which gave him the motivation to do things in life. After a breakup, he will think of no person to make an effort in life and hence he will leave his purpose in life.
2. He will have an imaginative world of his own
His mind will not accept to stay in the real world because of the stress he will be facing in the present situation. Hence he will prefer to retain his thoughts in the imaginative world he built. Those imaginations will be filled with the moments he spent with his ex.
3. He will be hating all girls
He will blame the whole female gender for that one breakup he faced. This is because he will create a particular image of all the girls same as that of his ex-partner. The thoughts of that hurtful incident and the time he spent alone will turn his mind against the girls.
4. He will have thoughts of revenge
Most males have an aggressive mindset, especially for the person they feel affection. They will feel that satisfaction lies only in patching up with that girl or if that is not possible then in revenge. These thoughts will circulate in his mind and force him to take violent steps against his ex and even other people.
5. He will think that all the relationships in the world are useless
Failure of a single relationship will lift his trust from all other relationships he is having. He will resemble his present relationships with his relationship that broke up. This will cause a lack of effort from his side toward other relationships creating many problems.
6. He will continuously deny that the breakup occurred
He will consistently deny that any breakup had occurred because in this way he can make a path for patch up. He will think that accepting the breakup will leave his emotional and mental personality stuck between the patch-up with his ex and moving on in life.
7. He will think his personality is not worth it
Instead of finding out the root cause of the relationship, he will blame his personality and habits for the breakup. His thoughts and emotional breakdown will force him to hate himself and declare himself the major culprit for this incident.
8. He will always have old memories of his ex in mind
His mind will always be flooded with the romantic and intimate moments spent with his ex-partner. These thoughts will keep stopping him from moving on and will lead to an emotional breakdown because of the loneliness that he will be facing in real time.
9. He will think he has an emotionally damaged personality
The breakup will carry so much impact that he will start to lose complete motivation in life. His behavior will always have the presentation of that hopelessness roaming in his mind. This will also impact his status and reputation in his social circle and workplace.
10. He will think as he is mentally exhausted
He will avoid the normal tasks he performs during his routine and also start losing his ability to think critically. The depressing thoughts of those pleasure moments wandering in his mind will deplete his ability to work smartly and efficiently. This will even shorten his temperament and affect his overall performance.
5 Things males expect from others after a breakup
The period of emotional trauma following a breakup will increase the need for care and attention in a male’s life. Thus he will expect others to fill the gap that is created because of breakup, especially by close friends and family members.
Hence if you are searching for ways to assist a person suffering from breakup stress then you may get some help from these things;
1. He expects his friends to support him
The company and especially the close friends will be the first line of support after the breakup. Those friends who have remained his source of happiness from long before the relationship started will be needed the most at that time.
2. He will expect others not to discuss his ex
The hurtful moments for a guy after the breakup will happen when someone discusses the memories or anything related to his ex.
Thus he will express anger or become annoyed whenever someone talks about his ex-partner because this will trigger the emotionally damage part of his personality which he is trying to forget.
3. He will expect others to respect his comfort zone
Breakup induces a drastic change in the personality and habits of a male guy. His capability to adjust to other people becomes reduced. Thus he will start expecting more from others to adjust according to him and give respect to his comfort zone.
4. He will expect others not to force him to move on
The broken personality of a guy after the breakup will cause him to remain stuck in the thoughts of moments he spent with his ex. He will be unable to accept moving on for a long time because this process will be very hurtful. Thus he will not expect others to force him to move on.
5. He will expect others to pull him out of toxic thoughts of a relationship
His ability to make decisions and control his thoughts will be lost after a breakup. Thus he will be in prime need of his social circle and close ones to divert his mind and engage him in different activities to put him back on a normal life track.
Pro Tip:
The male personalities have a deep and emotional side which usually becomes connected to the person they remain close to. A breakup can damage the soft side of his personality and can make him the most dull person.
The most effective way to heal a person from this disease is to give him undemanded care because males are mostly less expressive for emotional care and also fill the gap that breakup created so that he can become his self again.
